Published by: Andrews McMeel Publishing
Genres: Comics & Graphic Novels, Humor, Memoir
Source: Andrews McMeel Publishing
I hope you all had a great Valentine’s Day and spent it with your loved ones (including a good book)!
It’s been a pretty productive reading week for me! I finished Sula by Toni Morrison, and A Book Of Common Prayer by Joan Didion, and then proceeded to watch Joan Didion: The Center Will Not Hold, a documentary about the author’s career on Netflix. I anticipate writing a long post on Joan Didion once I finish her memoir The Year of Magical Thinking.
I concluded the awesome week with Debbie Tung’s Quiet Girl in a Noisy World: An Introvert’s Story, which was, for me, a love story to all introverts. The book is extremely relatable and I definitely recognize and laughed at my own antics. For instance:
I totally feel much more comfortable with my family and friends (lounging around in sweatpants and with messy hair)
And I admit to having a tea addiction. Below is my stash of favorite teas (note, the stack of books right next to it):
But who can blame me? Tea does make everything better.
And, of course, I have a love of naps! I try to take a 10 minute nap after getting back to my dorm from lectures and from social events to recharge.
In the book, Debbie shares that her Myers Briggs personality is INFJ. (Mine is very close: INFP). And she points out many similarities that introverts share:
- we tend to feel drained of energy from disingenuous social interaction and overstimulation (but we appreciate genuine interactions with close friends and family)
- we tend to have too much going on inside our heads
- we tend to be sensitive people (but that also means we have great empathy for others)
- we like to have personal space and quiet time to pursue our creative endeavors like drawing, music, reading, writing, etc.
The book made me realize one characteristic that I previously never associated with introverts: the search for a deeper meaning.
This dialogue is always going on in my head. I am always trying to find a “Why?” in everything I do and become anxious if I think I am not doing enough.
I really appreciated Debbie for highlighting this struggle for feeling fulfilled. Maybe this desires is tied to introverts’ creative impulses? I am very intrigued to read some research articles to find out…
Debbie also notes that it’s important to do a lot of self reflection to figure out whether you are on a career path that is making you happy. I want to add that it’s also crucial to practice self care to understand the difference between being fulfilled and being enough. You are enough, every step of the way in your journey to fulfillment.
I thought it was very cute that Debbie shares how well her marriage to an extrovert works! She writes, “He knows when I need to take a break…We’re often together, but he understands when I need my space…He balances out my introverted ways.” I think this is true on a friendship level too, my extroverted friends challenge to push my social limits and make me a better person.
All in all, Quiet Girl in a Noisy World was the perfect book to read with a warm cup of tea under a cozy blanket. It made me reflect on my introverted personality, and relationships and life-goals. I encourage any one who loves an introverted person (should be everyone, haha) to pick this book up.
Thank you to the lovely people at Andrews McMeel Publishing for sending me a copy of the book for review.
Please check out Debbie Tung’s (very appropriately named) Instagram, Tumblr, and Twitter @wheresmybubble to follow more of her work. She has another book coming out in 2018!